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When is it okay to leave? It’s a pressing question. It all comes down to being an asshole or being someone’s bitch. I ask this question because I’ve been asked about it from two different men in two different relationships. And even though the answers I gave were pretty much the same, the reasoning behind them were totally different.

Leaving a relationship goes from tricky to completely brutal. There’s never anything easy about it; someone always feels slighted by the other person. ‘Nobody wins’, the common phrase goes.

Case number one. A guy has been in a relationship for three years and, in his words, it’s going okay. He likes her but there are obvious problems. After three years, you either want to stay around someone or you don’t. He believes that he could do better; she isn’t really what he wants. In wanting to be a man, he has been completely up front with her about it because he was told to be by his friends. The problem is that he has given her voice in the fact that he wants to break up with her. It enables her to give her opinion on the situation at hand. How can you leave someone when she can only tell you how great you are together?

When he decides to leave, she will say that Mansy didn’t give the relationship a chance. The word ‘chance’ is what gives Mansy the hardest time. He actually thinks that after three years he didn’t give the relationship a chance. He thinks that he should change his mind. There are some things in life that you should do on your own. This is one of them. He should listen to himself and tear the Band-Aid off as soon as possible. It doesn’t matter whether you leave now or later. You’re still perceived as a jerk. Why not be a jerk now – and happy tomorrow?

In case number two, Mansy was in a different situation. He was hanging on by a thread. The major difference here is that new Mansy could feel the relationship slipping away and he was doing everything he could to try and prevent this from happening.

He had been in a relationship for about a year. They started off in a whirlwind relationship – together all of the time, happy to be together, and to do everything with each other. Now, the relationship is fizzing out. Our Mansy is trying to get it back to what it was. But she has become unresponsive to him and his efforts to keep the relationship going. He tells me the tension is thick every time they’re together. He tells me that he cannot believe that the perfect relationship is going to end like this.

How he would like it to end? He tells me that if it ends, he would like them to end up as friends – but friends with benefits. Of course. He doesn’t really want it to end. The problem with his outcome is that there’s another person involved. From where I sit, she’s done. No matter what Mansy does, she’s still leaving. And unlike our first Mansy, she’s not asking his opinion on the situation. She’s just going to do it. Mansy’s counter to her leaving is that she just doesn’t see how much he loves her; that she will find out soon enough. Mansy thinks she will come back to him. Fat chance.

The problem with leaving a relationship is that some people just want to hang on at all costs. They can’t see the writing on the wall. Why? Because some people simply don’t want you or the relationship any longer. You got serious too quickly and you chased her off. Or it happened too fast. Regardless, if you want to leave, just leave. Don’t ask for her opinions in order to prolong the inevitable. Do what she’s going to do anyway: Just leave.

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Rejection is the most important thing in life. It forms you as a man. And only one reality exists: how you handle it.

We see it as a bad experience when women reject us. We perceive ourselves as having defects. What you need to realize is that when a woman rejects you, it has nothing to do with you.

You’re always quick to blame yourself. But the problem isn’t you. It’s her. You just don’t see this yet.

Getting rejected by women is not only normal; it’s an opportunity. Recognize your uniqueness, your power, and that it makes you better, not worse.

In this episode:

  • avoid turning rejection into fear
  • the importance of surrounding yourself with people
  • why you should not isolate yourself
  • it’s all about her insecurities
  • why she is unable to step up to your level of courage

How To Handle Rejection From Women. What you let people see is up to you

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How you raise him is how he learns. Period. He learns what you teach him. That’s his development.

American society likes to label and market things. You’ll hear all about the Terrible Twos. We’re here to separate reality from myth. The good news is that it’s easier and more rewarding than you think.

In this episode:

  • the real truth vs. mystery
  • true cost vs. perceived cost
  • how to deal with your wife
  • why you can no longer have regrets
  • how to be a parent instead of a coach

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How you raise him is how he learns. Period. He learns what you teach him. That’s his development.

American society likes to label and market things. You’ll hear all about the Terrible Twos. We’re here to separate reality from myth. The good news is that it’s easier and more rewarding than you think.

In this episode:

  • the real truth vs. mystery
  • true cost vs. perceived cost
  • how to deal with your wife
  • why you can no longer have regrets
  • how to be a parent instead of a coach

How To Raise A Two-Year-Old. Remember: you are in the driver’s seat


Rejection is the most important thing in life. It forms you as a man. And only one reality exists: how you handle it. We see it as a bad experience when women reject us. We perceive ourselves as having defects. What you need to realize is that when a woman rejects you, it has nothing to do with you. You’re always quick to blame yourself. But the problem isn’t you. It’s her. You just don’t see this yet. Getting rejected by women is not only normal; it’s an opportunity. Recognize your uniqueness, your power, and that it makes you better, not worse.

In this episode:

avoid turning rejection into fear

the importance of surrounding yourself with people

why you should not isolate yourself

it’s all about her insecurities

why she is unable to step up to your level of courage

How To Handle Rejection From Women. What you let people see is up to you.


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How you raise him is how he learns. Period. He learns what you teach him. That’s his development. American society likes to label and market things. You’ll hear all about the Terrible Twos. We’re here to separate reality from myth. The good news is that it’s easier and more rewarding than you think. In this episode:

  • - the real truth vs. mystery
  • - true cost vs. perceived cost
  • - how to deal with your wife
  • - why you can no longer have regrets
  • - how to be a parent instead of a coach

How To Raise A Two-Year-Old. Remember: you are in the driver’s seat.


Brand new #AmericanMansy Podcast episode is LIVE!

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We are raising our boys to be afraid. The coddling of children has taken over grit, bravery and resolve. Are girls more allowed to fend for themselves while boys are over-mothered and overprotected? Is this why American men now are playing dress-up more than women? Are American men desperate for attention? Is vanity and over-sensitivity the new manliness? In this episode:

  • why little boys have stopped acting like boys
  • is the gym the new adult playground?
  • why boys are not expected to fail
  • some startling statistics regarding grooming products, satchels & breadwinners

Why Men Are Becoming Women. We only have ourselves to blame.

The coddling of children has taken over grit, bravery and resolve. Is vanity and over-sensitivity the new manliness?


We are raising our boys to be afraid. The coddling of children has taken over grit, bravery and resolve. Are girls more allowed to fend for themselves while boys are over-mothered and overprotected? Is this why American men now are playing dress-up more than women? Are American men desperate for attention? Is vanity and over-sensitivity the new manliness? In this episode:

  • - why little boys have stopped acting like boys
  • - is the gym the new adult playground?
  • - why boys are not expected to fail
  • - some startling statistics regarding grooming products, satchels & breadwinners

Why Men Are Becoming Women. We only have ourselves to blame.


Brand new #AmericanMansy Podcast episode is LIVE!